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Dating with Differences: Two Views, One Connection

Election day is here, and let’s be honest – things are intense. Dating with differences of opinion is part of the reality we’re living in, especially now that politics is everywhere – on our feeds, in our conversations, and even in those little comments people drop here and there. Right now, it feels like everyone’s got a stance, a viewpoint, or a “take” they’re eager to share, and the air is thick with opinions. And politics can really bring out

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The Little Red Hen’s Shidduch Journey

The Beginning of the Journey Once upon a time, in a quiet town buried under snow ❄️, lived a little red hen. As winter settled in, she knew it was time to keep dating—even though the journey felt as cold and long as the season itself 🥶. Somewhere out there, her perfect rooster was waiting 🐓. She just had to keep going.  One frosty morning 🌨️, her phone buzzed 📲 with a message from the shadchan: “I have a promising

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Dating, Succos, and All the Decisions In Between

Dating… You’d think it’s the only thing happening in your life, right? It’s all anyone seems to ask you about—”How’s dating going? Any new updates? Met anyone recently?” Meanwhile, you’re juggling a hundred other things because, let’s be honest, life is so much more than just dating, especially around Succos. This time of year, it feels like all the decisions are piling up at once, and not one of them involves “Have you met someone yet?” With Succos fast approaching,

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When the Answer is Different Than What We Expected

As the plane was about to take off, I sent my husband a quick text. He was on his way to Uman, his yearly visit with Rebbe Nachman for Rosh Hashana. It wasn’t just a casual message; it came from a place deep inside, a place filled with longing and pain that’s been building for years. I didn’t overthink it, didn’t try to mask how I really felt. I simply said what my heart had been repeating over and over

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Decoding Mixed Messages in Dating

So, you’re flying high one minute—everything’s clicking, the conversations are flowing, and you’re pretty sure you’ve finally found someone who gets you. One day, they’re all into you—sending sweet texts, making plans, making you feel like you’re the absolute center of their universe. But then, out of nowhere, they pull back, go quiet, and leave you sitting there, questioning everything. It’s confusing, frustrating, and can drive anyone up the wall. But before you start spiraling into overanalysis or throwing in

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How Preemptive Statements Can Save Your Relationship

We’ve all had them—the dreaded “we need to talk” moments. The kind that makes your brain instantly start reviewing all the ways you might’ve messed up. But with a well-timed preemptive statement, you can actually have those tough conversations without sending your spouse into a panic spiral. The power of the preemptive statement Picture this: You had a crazy day of chasing the kids, battling traffic, and spilling coffee on yourself, yet despite that, all you want is to sit

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Ani L’Dodi – Be the change in your marriage

As the month of Elul kicks off, it’s time to dive into some serious reflection—right between the last beach day and the apple and honey. I know what you’re thinking: “Does this mean I have to start with myself? Can’t I just focus on how my spouse needs to improve?” But here’s the thing: as much as we’d love to fix our spouse’s flaws, the real magic happens when we start with ourselves. The verse from Shir Hashirim (Song of

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Facing the fear of divorce: braving the heart

You know, being a Jewish single in today’s dating world is no walk in the park. We’ve got this amazing cultural background that’s all about family and settling down, but then there’s this whole divorce thing hanging over your head. You want to find your person, but you’re also kind of scared. When you look around, you realize that divorce isn’t just a “them” problem anymore; it’s happening in our community, too. And that’s tough to swallow. It’s made a

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Dating burnout prevention: pause to recharge

A few weeks ago, I shared the story of my marathon 20-hour drive to Miami, where I talked about how knowing my “why” was the driving force that kept me going. So, what was my big “why”? It was burnout. Yep, good old burnout—the kind that sneaks up on you when you’re juggling too many things and think you’re some kind of superhero. I had taken on too much at once, pushing myself to the edge of exhaustion and overwhelm.

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Tu B’av: Your Dating Report Card

Looking to improve your dating game? On Tu B’Av, a day of love, we reflect on the journey to finding love. But don’t worry, your “Dating Report Card” is not set in stone! Miriam Zeitlin, a passionate dating coach, can help turn those C’s into A’s. With her expertise, you’ll learn to make memorable first impressions, master conversation tactics, embrace vulnerability, and develop listening skills. Celebrate Tu B’Av by reflecting on your progress and discovering how Miriam can help you find your bashert. Let’s turn your dating journey into a success story!

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The Gates of Tears

Tears have a special place in our emotional world. They’re more than just water falling from our eyes – they’re a way our souls communicate when words just aren’t enough. Tears are powerful. They are a way to connect, to heal, and sometimes, to completely change our lives. I want to share with you an incredible story about a young woman named Shira. Her experience shows us just how impactful tears can be. Shira was going through a really tough

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Beyond the Diagnosis: Thriving in the Shidduch Scene with a Chronic Condition

Let’s face it – shidduch dating is already a rollercoaster ride, even when you’re in perfect health. Throw in a chronic illness, and suddenly, you’ve got a whole theme park of challenges to navigate! For those dealing with chronic conditions like diabetes, Crohn’s, rheumatoid arthritis, lupus, fibromyalgia, asthma, vision or hearing impairment, POTS, MS, CF, or any of the other fun acronyms the medical world has bestowed upon you, the path to finding that special someone can feel like trying

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Dating GPS: Knowing your ‘Why’

Recently, I did something that might sound a bit wild to some but is pretty much par for the course for me. I woke up one morning and told my husband I was driving down to Miami for a few weeks. Being the crazy person that I am, he believed me. 🤣 (I will share my why in a future blog.) After packing the car with everything I thought I would need for my trip, I began the long drive.

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The Authenticity Advantage

This story first made me laugh out loud at its absurdity, but then I realized we all do this in some way. Lessons from a Chinese zoo In a peculiar twist of zoological creativity, a Chinese zoo recently made headlines by dyeing Chow-Chow dogs to resemble pandas, dubbing them “panda dogs.” While it may seem cute on the surface, this stunt by a Chinese zoo highlights a deeper issue we see all too often in the world: the tendency for people

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Light at the end of the tunnel

I wanted to share a thought about Shiva Assar B’Tammuz – the 17th of Tammuz. It’s the start of what’s known as “The Three Weeks.” This period commemorates the time between the breaching of the walls of Yerushalayim and the eventual destruction of the Beis Hamikdash. It’s a tough three weeks, marked by sadness and reflection, but there’s also a deeper lesson here about resilience and hope. One of the most challenging aspects of any difficult situation is the uncertainty

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Miriam Zeitlin explains why shidduch humor and authenticity can go far on your resume

From Paper to Person: More Than a One-Page Wonder

Shidduch dating. The magical world where your entire essence is condensed into a one-page shidduch resume. It is easy to feel like you’re being reduced to a neatly formatted Word document and your worth is measured in font size and bullet points. You can’t help but wonder: “Am I a person or just a resume?” If you’ve ever felt more like a list of qualifications than a living, breathing person, and you need some shidduch dating humor, this post is

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Miriam Zeitlin gives Chizuk in Shidduchim

Chizuk in Shidduchim: A Lesson From Elephants & Dogs

Who doesn’t love a good story, especially one that involves adorable animals and a lesson that offers chizuk in Shidduchim? This is the tale of the elephant and the dog, both of whom found themselves expecting simultaneously. It’s a story with a lesson for anyone who is hoping to meet their bashert soon. A Tale of Two Pregnancies Once upon a time, in a land where animals could talk, an elephant and a dog discovered they were expecting at the

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Beyond Yearbook Predictions

On a recent flight to Chicago for a friend’s son’s wedding, I found myself reminiscing about high school days and wondering what journey life has taken my old classmates on. (For those who don’t know – I went to school in Chicago for my last 2 years of high school, even though I am from Brooklyn.) I have only been back once since I graduated and was about to see classmates I haven’t seen in… well, let’s say it’s been

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The First Couple’s Secret to a Great Marriage

The Irony of the First Advice I want to talk about the secret sauce that Adam and Chava, the very first married couple, had for creating such a great marriage, as it holds a timeless lesson for us all. After they were created, it says in the Torah: “Therefore, a man shall leave his father and mother and cling to his wife.” Hold on a second. Adam and Chava didn’t even have parents! Think about the irony. The first couple,

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Learn more about the science of dating with Miriam Zeitlin

The Surprising Science of Dating

Why What We Think We Want Isn’t Always What We Choose We all have a checklist of what we want in an ideal partner. It could be tall, dark, and handsome or perhaps smart, funny, and kind. But what if I told you those checklists often go right out the window when we actually meet someone in real life? It sounds crazy, but the person who ticks every box on paper isn’t necessarily the one who makes your heart skip

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